Respecting Parents

A friend one night visit to the house. Dari wajahnya yang nampak lelah dan kusut, kelihatan sekali dia berada dalam keadaan sulit. From the look on his face tired and disheveled, he was obviously in a difficult situation. Selang berbasa basi dan membahas banyak hal, akhirnya dia utarakan juga masalah yang sebenarnya sedang dihadapi. Hoses swapped pleasantries and discussed many things, finally he also pointed out the real issues at hand.
Dia membuka curhatnya dengan keluhan mengenai keadaan ekonominya yang semakin memburuk dan isterinya yang sekarang sakit-sakitan sehingga mengakibatkan keadaan rumah tangga mereka berada dalam masalah serius. He opened Curhatnya with complaints about the economic situation is getting worse, and his wife is now sick causing their domestic situation is in serious trouble.
Kalau saya boleh menganalisa, kemunduran ekonomi keluarga kami justru terjadi tak lama setelah ibu meninggal dunia, katanya seolah menegaskan. If I may analyze, the economic decline of our family just happened not long after the mother died, he seemed to confirm. Sewaktu kami masih merawat ibu, rasanya semua usaha yang saya lakukan mudah dan menghasilkan rejeki yang lumayan. When we were caring for the mother, it's all that I do business easily and make a decent livelihood. Kakak dan saudara-saudara rajin bertandang, Sister and brothers bertandang diligent, sehingga hubungan kami hangat dan mesra dengan mereka. so that our relationship was warm and affectionate with them. Intinya, keberadaan ibu di rumah kami justru membawa berkah tersendiri, di balik perasaan repot yang kami rasakan. In essence, the existence of our mother at home brings its own blessings, trouble behind our feelings felt.
Repot? Bother? Ah, begitulah selalu perasaan seorang anak apabila dihadapkan pada kewajiban mengurus dan merawat orang tua saat mereka sudah uzur. Ah, that's always a child's feelings when confronted with the obligation to take care and look after their parents when they are elderly. Sang anak beranggapan, bahwa kehadiran satu orang tua di tengah keluarga mereka akan menambah beban tidak saja secara ekonomi tetapi juga secara sosial. The child thinks, that the presence of a parent in the middle of their families will add to the burden of not only economically but also socially. Sehingga, kebanyakan lebih memilih memberikan bantuan secara ekonomi dibanding menampung satu atap dalam keluarga mereka. Hence, most would prefer to give economic assistance to accommodate a roof over their families.
Padahal, apa yang kebanyakan kita sangka sebagai beban, justru ternyata di baliknya terdapat banyak keberkahan. In fact, what most of us think as a burden, it turns out there is a lot behind blessing. Seperti cerita teman saya tadi, keberadaan orang tuanya telah membuat jalinan silaturahmi yang hangat dengan saudara dan kakak-kakaknya. Like this story my friend, the presence of their parents have made a warm Hospitality interwoven with brothers and his sisters. Bukankan silaturahmi juga merupakan salah satu pembuka pintu rejeki? Is not Hospitality is also a fortune door opener?
Belum lagi kemustajaban doa orang tua. Not to mention the parents kemustajaban prayer. Saya yakin, tanpa dimintapun pastilah orang tua selalu mendoakan anaknya demi kebaikan dan keselamatan mereka. I am sure, without a parent dimintapun must always pray for the good of their children and their safety. Apalagi bila kita merawat mereka, tentu doa-doa merupakan wujud terima kasih mereka. Moreover, if we take care of them, of the prayers is a manifestation of their gratitude. Belum lagi ganjaran pahala yang luar biasa karena merawat orang tua kita disaat mereka memang sangat membutuhkan. Not to mention the rewards are tremendous rewards for caring for our parents while they are in dire need.
Dari semua itu, rasanya memang tak berlebihan bila dikatakan bahwa keberadaan orang tua dalam rumah tangga kita justru merupakan keberkahan dan ladang pahala yang luar biasa bagi anak-anaknya. From all that, it's no exaggeration to say that the presence of parents in our household it is a blessing and a field of great reward for their children.
Itulah mengapa kedudukan orang tua dalam pandangan Islam memang sangat tinggi. That's why parents in the position of Islam is very high. Penghormatan kepada mereka berada langsung di bawah penghormatan dan taat kita kepada Allah dan Rasul-Nya. Tribute to them was directly under our respect and obedience to Allah and His Messenger. Allah pun tegas-tegas berfirman agar kita berlaku lemah lembut kepada mereka; God had explicitly said that we apply to them gently;
…… dan hendaklah berbuat baik kepada kedua orang tua dengan sebaik-baiknya. ... ... And should do good to both parents as well as possible. Jika salah seorang di antara keduanya atau keduanya sampai berumur lanjut dalam pemeliharaanmu maka sekali-kali janganlah mengatakan kepada keduanya perkataan 'ah' dan janganlah kamu membentak keduanya dan ucapkanlah kepada keduanya ucapan yang mulia........ If any one of them or both to go in pemeliharaanmu age so do not ever say to them saying 'ah' and do not shout them and speak to them a noble word ........ (Al-Isra': 23-24) (Al-Isra ': 23-24)
Tak terasa, saya pun teringat diri saya sendiri yang telah yatim piatu. Not feel, I was reminded myself that have been orphaned. Betapa menyesalnya saya tak memanfaatkan kesempatan untuk merawat mereka disaat mereka masih ada. How sorry I did not take advantage of the opportunity to take care of them while they are still there. Setetes air mata dan sebait doa mengalun lembut dalam hati saya: “Ya Rabb, ampunilah hamba yang tak kan pernah bisa membalas semua pegorbanan dan ketulusan cinta mereka. A single tear and a prayer Sebait playing softly in my heart:

"O Lord, forgive me that will never be able to repay all pegorbanan and sincerity of their love. Ampunillah dosa orang tua hamba dan terimalah amal kebaikan mereka.”

Amin… Parents Ampunillah slaves of sin and accept their good deeds. "Amin ...

Oleh Abdul Rahman Jamil By Abdul Rahman Jamil